tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post3352429564921574835..comments2023-10-20T15:54:01.893+03:00Comments on Diary of a gay Kenyan: Kenyans addicted to secret gay sexTamakuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-19149267871635484882009-03-31T21:13:00.000+03:002009-03-31T21:13:00.000+03:00Hi Wallace,Lol! I hope you kept your hands to your...Hi Wallace,<BR/><BR/>Lol! I hope you kept your hands to yourself! Hmmm next time I'll tag along and eye the fine men dancing (I'm a wannabe student of dance, you'll understand, Ahem!)xTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-15724246806778261882009-03-31T20:39:00.000+03:002009-03-31T20:39:00.000+03:00Ha. I too was at the Kamba night, and boy was it k...Ha. I too was at the Kamba night, and boy was it kicking :-) As shallow as this is going to sound, if George happens to be one of them numerous fine men who graced the event, dancing with abandon, then Tamaku you got yourself a keeper!<BR/><BR/>Wallace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-8034972827944025352009-03-31T12:53:00.000+03:002009-03-31T12:53:00.000+03:00I think being gay for many centuries has been so h...I think being gay for many centuries has been so hush hush and a secret lifestyle to so many even those in gay relationships, that for some the very fact of being 'outed' so to speak and living life openly, even with legal prtections, seems overwhelming. you may find even with legalisation and protection and insurance and medical protections, many will still prefer to live secretly. im afraid for some the allure of being queer and being part of a secret lifestyle is just exciting and thrilling and they would not wnat to be "normal". does that make sense.Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07791283806320223309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-79235265679555530392009-03-30T19:52:00.000+03:002009-03-30T19:52:00.000+03:00Hi Billy,The promised land seems a long way off bu...Hi Billy,<BR/><BR/>The promised land seems a long way off but it's something I am passionate about. We count on all the support we can get. Thanks. xTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-517952449987324642009-03-30T10:08:00.000+03:002009-03-30T10:08:00.000+03:00Different folks, different strokes... As much as I...Different folks, different strokes... As much as I fought for equality in the 'old South Africa' for both all people as well as gay people, you will always find someone that is opposed. Not that I'm trying to compare the two, just saying that someone will have a different opinion to yours. <BR/><BR/>You just keep the good fight going - it is worth it at the end of the day...Billyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17794508008259267967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-76382910435301509482009-03-30T08:15:00.000+03:002009-03-30T08:15:00.000+03:00Hi Leonardo,It would take a long time, many times ...Hi Leonardo,<BR/><BR/>It would take a long time, many times never, even under legal protections for some gay men to want to live their lives openly. I guess we are back to choice. xTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-82588466254093618252009-03-30T03:51:00.000+03:002009-03-30T03:51:00.000+03:00I think I understand the confusion...it isn´t so m...I think I understand the confusion...it isn´t so much the ¨being legal¨ part as the temptation/threat to ¨be out¨ that is being voted against...I suggest the two things remain seperate as long as we have folks around us that would harm us (part two)...being PROTECTED is the key, afterall, even the most ¨careful¨ of us are sometimes exploited or worse...this is not about sex, this is about responsible protection...but, naturally that may require some real activist folks take some real risks (and many have and do).Leonardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16667415590825321701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-18510156005177031172009-03-29T17:30:00.000+03:002009-03-29T17:30:00.000+03:00Hi Anengiyefa,Nice to hear from you after a while!...Hi Anengiyefa,<BR/><BR/>Nice to hear from you after a while! <BR/><BR/>Majority of African gay men punish themselves further by choosing not to acknowledge their inner voices. And of course that old chestnut of the illicit being sweeter. <BR/>xxTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-1384198794194912062009-03-29T17:24:00.000+03:002009-03-29T17:24:00.000+03:00Hi Pater Nostra,George wanted us to go together bu...Hi Pater Nostra,<BR/><BR/>George wanted us to go together but I have this aversion for noisy crowded places so he went alone. What you say is so true, we shouldn't forget to live life <I>now</I>, no guarantees about tomorrow. xTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-81829680273221398732009-03-29T16:58:00.000+03:002009-03-29T16:58:00.000+03:00African gay men (most of them) have imbibed the fa...African gay men (most of them) have imbibed the false notion that homosexulity is wrong. This is also the reason why denial and guilt feelings are widespred among gay men. <BR/><BR/>Engaging in homosexual activity for many, is always something of the "exciting illicit temptation" to which one succumbs from time to time. Its not surprising that there are gay men among those who trumpet homophobic abuse. Even men who are so very gay, prefer to be seen in the public eye as being happily heterosexual. I'm utterly flummoxed by the hypocrisy.Anengiyefahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12680156670687593504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-12891081766659459472009-03-29T11:22:00.000+03:002009-03-29T11:22:00.000+03:00Hi Leonardo,Perhaps we are afraid of these 'sharpe...Hi Leonardo,<BR/><BR/>Perhaps we are afraid of these 'sharper edges' being too used to the dark the sudden light may 'blind' us. Hmmm interesting view. xTamakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03032782277899868725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3022547687108568745.post-52148587902839052572009-03-29T04:00:00.000+03:002009-03-29T04:00:00.000+03:00Of course ¨secrets¨ can be fun...they can be excit...Of course ¨secrets¨ can be fun...they can be exciting in many ways (even improves the allure of the ¨objective of interest¨ sometimes)...it´s not only a homosexual thing...the part that interests me is that some of your readers would prefer to ¨vulnerable¨ under the law than be treated equally and justly...some folks loved being abused, being a victim, oh the blaming and shaming of it all...deflecting doesn´t work, no not in the long run, finally, one must stand up and say, this is me, the AUTHENTIC version of me (even if it is only to ones self). Coming down from the last row in the balcony is nice, it just takes some getting used to when one see´s better...sharper edges, in the light...and ALL the clarity! YIKES!Leonardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16667415590825321701noreply@blogger.com